The Pregnancy Hat: Real women don’t look like Claire Danes four weeks after baby.

This morning the media is ranting and raving about how great Claire Danes looks post baby. Sure, she looks stunning and is super lean (she had a baby 4 weeks ago in this photo!) but let’s get real: This is not what the majority of women look like post pregnancy. Shoot, this isn’t what the majority of women look like now.

claire danes after pregnancy

Unless you’re a genetic freak of nature, you probably still look about three months pregnant at 4 weeks postpartum. Take me for example. This is a photo take 10 months after my daughter was born. 10 months! Not 10 weeks, folks. In this photo I still have 40 lbs to lose to get to my pre-baby weight. See that chin? And yes, those are maternity jeans. What? I kind of dig the elastic.

real women after pregnancy

For those on your first child, have patience and be nice to yourself. It took me over a year to lose all the baby weight. Let me say that again. It took me over a year to lose all of the baby weight.

First, I had to find the time to get on a weight loss plan (thank you Weight Watchers). Then, I had to wait until my baby was sleeping through the night. I found that without 8 hours of sleep at night, the baby bulge didn’t drop.

“You lose weight breastfeeding,” everyone would say. Nope. Not for me. My body held on to the weight like a champion. I was so concerned at one point with my lack of weight loss, that I asked my doctor to check my thyroid. Truth is, the weight does come off. Just not four weeks after having a baby.

My advice to you, new mommy, is to pat yourself on the back and get off of that scale for a while. It takes time, but with hard work, SLEEP and a little determination, you’ll be able to squeeze into a red-hot Versace number, like Claire Danes, one of these days.


This picture was taken two years after giving birth. Two. Years. It may not be Versace, but I was able to squeeze into a Calvin Klein dress (thank you Spanx). And now? I’m six weeks postpartum with baby #2, and back to being 30 lbs over my goal weight. Crazy thing is, if given the choice, I would take being over weight with a healthy and happy baby any day.

So, here’s to loving yourself no matter what your size and to being patient with the weight loss. Enjoy this precious time with your little one. Unless you have an award show to attend, you can always hit the gym another day.

Photo credit: Getty

7 thoughts on “The Pregnancy Hat: Real women don’t look like Claire Danes four weeks after baby.

  1. Thanks Steph I agree with it all. I hate the pressure to look like Hollywood-lets just support new moms for being able to manage getting out the door on time. I know that burns calories!

    1. haha. Seriously. The fact that we brushed our hair and are managing life with only three hours of sleep is reason enough to celebrate. xo

  2. I love this! It’s all very true! I seriously hate when people told/tell me “it all comes off with breastfeeding!”…um, no, My girl is 9 1/2 months old and I am still 15lb above my prepregnancy weight! it’s hard to find time to actually exercise as well, and I am just now starting to do it!! BTW, you look fantastic in any size Steph! So happy for your beautiful, healthy family! XOXO

    1. Thank you so much! It’s true, it’s so hard to lose that extra 15 lbs. They are worth it, but man-o-man, it’s tough stuff.

  3. You, dear, are gorgeous, and a fabulous mama. And you’re right…sleep helps…I would imagine…I’m not there yet. Hahaha! XOXO